The Misguided Concept of "Moving On"

 

Title: The Misguided Concept of "Moving On"

Are you tired of being told to "move on" from your pain, as if it's a simple switch to flip? Do you feel like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle of grief, and others just don't understand?

"We need to stop telling people to 'move on' and start encouraging them to 'move forward'. There's a difference. 'Moving on' implies leaving something behind, while 'moving forward' acknowledges that our experiences shape us, but don't define us."

The truth is, that "moving on" is a misguided concept. It implies that we can simply leave our emotions behind, like a worn-out pair of shoes. But the human heart doesn't work that way. Our experiences shape us, and our emotions are a natural response to those experiences.

"Healing is not a linear process. It's a messy, winding road that requires patience, self-compassion, and understanding. We need to stop expecting people to 'get over it' and start supporting them on their journey towards healing."

"Moving forward doesn't mean forgetting. It means learning to live with the memories, to find meaning in the pain, and to use our experiences to grow and transform. It's a journey, not a destination."

Rather than trying to "move on," we should focus on "moving forward." This subtle shift in language acknowledges that our past is a part of us, but it doesn't define us. We can learn to live with our emotions, integrate them into our lives in a healthy way, and find growth and transformation in the process.

So, how can we "move forward" in a way that honours our experiences and emotions?

- Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a close friend.

- Embrace your emotions: Acknowledge and validate your feelings, rather than trying to suppress them.

- Take small steps: Focus on tiny, incremental changes, rather than trying to make giant leaps.

- Cultivate mindfulness: Stay present in the moment, and let go of the need to control the future or past.

Remember, healing is a journey, not a destination. It's okay to take your time, to stumble, and to learn as you go. You are stronger than you think, and your emotions are a sign of your humanity.

 "The phrase 'move on' is often used as a way to silence people, to shut down their emotions and experiences. But we need to create spaces where people feel safe to share their stories, to process their emotions, and to heal in their own time.

God Bless You All...

Jacob M