**How Do We Stop People from Pushing Others Over the Edge?**

 

An urgent call for action to prevent abetting suicide

Suicide is a tragic and preventable loss of life that often leaves families, friends, and communities in a state of shock and sorrow. Yet, we frequently overlook a dark, underlying factor that contributes to many of these deaths: the role of those who, either directly or indirectly, push people over the edge.

Whether through bullying, manipulation, emotional abuse, or even silence in the face of someone’s struggle, people sometimes become accomplices in someone else's suffering. Worse, some abet individuals in their final, desperate moments instead of returning them to safety. We must ask Why some people support those who harm while turning a blind eye to those who cry out for help.

*The Subtlety of Destruction

Abetting suicide doesn’t always look like overt encouragement. It often comes in subtler forms—a snide remark about someone’s worthlessness, an unkind gesture during their lowest point, or even dismissing their pain as “attention-seeking.” Such actions, although seemingly small, compound the internal battles already being fought in silence. Many who feel the weight of these remarks grow more isolated, more hopeless, and convinced that the world would be better off without them.

The stigma surrounding mental health also plays a part. Those battling depression or suicidal thoughts often hear phrases like, "Just get over it" or "You’re just being dramatic." Such words can drive a person deeper into despair, making them feel invalidated and alone. These small dismissals can create a snowball effect, turning a moment of darkness into something far more permanent.

* Silence is Complicity

Even worse than the harsh words of abettors is the silence of bystanders. Many people witnessing someone in pain may feel unequipped or afraid to intervene. But silence is often just as harmful as the actions of those who actively push someone over the edge. When someone reaches out for help, whether directly or indirectly, and their cries go unanswered, they’re left to believe that no one cares enough to stop them from making an irreversible decision.

We need to challenge this apathy and fear. People must understand that asking someone how they’re doing, truly listening, and offering support can be the difference between life and death. Ignoring a person’s emotional turmoil is tantamount to letting them drown without offering a lifeline.

*Compassion and Responsibility

Each of us has a role to play in preventing suicide. The key lies in empathy and vigilance. Listening without judgment, offering a kind word when someone is struggling, and recognizing the warning signs are vital. But just as importantly, we must hold accountable those who push others toward despair.

We need to change the narrative: We must stop rewarding wrongdoers who belittle and destroy others while punishing those who seek help. Supporting someone through their darkest times should be seen as an honour, not an inconvenience.

* How Can We Save Lives?

1. Be Present: Pay attention to the emotional state of those around you. Sometimes, it’s the quiet, unspoken signs that indicate someone is struggling. A behaviour change, withdrawal from social interactions, or a sudden shift in mood could be indicators that someone is contemplating suicide.

2. Stop Enabling Bullies: When you see someone being ridiculed or demeaned, don’t stay silent. Bullying, whether physical or emotional, can drive someone to the brink of despair. Stand up against those who cause harm.

3. Encourage Vulnerability: Often, people don’t express their pain because they feel ashamed or afraid of judgment. Create an environment where it’s okay to talk about mental health struggles, where it’s okay to not be okay. Vulnerability can save lives.

4. Recognize Manipulative Behavior: Some people take advantage of someone’s fragility for their gain. Manipulators fuel self-doubt, guilt, and anxiety in those who are already struggling. Don’t let this kind of behaviour slide by unnoticed. Call it out.

5. Offer Resources: Many people feel that they can’t help because they aren’t mental health professionals. However, even just pointing someone to a suicide hotline or a mental health professional can be a lifeline. It’s okay to admit you don’t have all the answers—what matters is that you care enough to try.

The Importance of Being Proactive*

To save lives, we must create a culture where support is the norm, not the exception. Being proactive is crucial. If you notice someone struggling, don’t wait for them to ask for help—reach out. Often, those contemplating suicide won’t explicitly say they’re suffering, but your presence and concern can make all the difference.

If you or someone you know is struggling, here are some immediate steps you can take:

- Reach Out for Help: Don’t wait until it’s too late. Talk to someone you trust—a friend, a family member, or a mental health professional. 

- Use Crisis Resources: Call a suicide hotline or contact a mental health service in your area. These resources are available 24/7.

- Encourage Professional Help: Therapy, counselling, or support groups can be life-changing for those in crisis. Encourage the person to seek professional help, even offering to accompany them if needed.

*Together, We Can Make a Difference*

Saving lives begins with each of us, in small moments of empathy, understanding, and intervention. It’s our collective responsibility to prevent suicide by challenging those who push others toward the edge and offering a helping hand to those teetering on it. One person’s kindness could be another’s lifeline. 

Let’s ensure no one feels alone in their darkest moments. After all, it’s through community and compassion that we truly save lives.

God Save Us All 

Jacob M